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The affair as a solution

The Affair as a Solution

In this eighth installment of the Marital Labyrinth series, published simultaneously at Psychology Today, Dr Tobin considers the affair as a solution in the mind of the adulterer. You can view all articles in the series at this page. Imagine for a moment that you’re Kate’s closest friend. She tells you, “I can’t keep this a secret from you. I’m falling for another man. I work with

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Is it cheating to fantasize about another person?

Is it Cheating to Fantasize about Another Person?

In this sixth instalment of the Marital Labyrinth series, published simultaneously at Psychology Today, Dr Tobin asks whether it is cheating to fantasize about another person. You can view all articles in the series at this page. The mind is the most powerful sexual organ in the body. Through creative imagination and fantasy a couple can bring excitement and drama to their lovemaking. It takes courage to

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What are the missing ingredients that lead to a martial affair?

Yes or No to an Affair?

The Marital Labyrinth series continues with this fifth article – published simultaneously at Psychology Today – in which Dr Tobin considers the underlying causes, and the missing ingredients in a marriage, that can lead to an affair. You can view all articles in the series at this page. After the Affair: The Therapy Begins Kate and Dan began therapy with me approximately a month after Dan discovered Kate’s

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Articles by Dr. Michael Tobin
Dr. Michael Tobin has been a psychologist for forty-seven years specializing in couple and family therapy. He co-founded a theater company that performed vignettes on family and marital issues, which he co-wrote. These plays were performed over 100 times. He is the co-founder of www.wholefamily.com, an award winning website that focuses on how to solve typical marital and family challenges.